The Forgotten Traumas of Our Past

In 22 Scars, Amy is haunted by the traumatic things that happened to her as a child. In the end, it ends up defining her, becoming a part of who she is, the entire reason for her depression and despair.

In real life, it isn’t always that simple. When I succumbed to depression in my late teens, there was no reason I could think of. I don’t remember being abused; I don’t remember feeling unworthy; I don’t remember, really, any significant emotional trauma in my childhood at all.

That’s not to say there wasn’t any—I moved countries twice, had to learn a new language on the fly, left all my friends behind, was bullied and made fun of for my accent … plenty of things that could have, and did, upset me.

But nothing that I can think of remains with me today. All those things are in the past, part of the ‘old’ me. The new me started at age 16, and hasn’t changed since.

You see, I think that depression comes in two flavors, and sometimes they’re mixed: situational depression, and chemical depression. The two are related: depression is is a chemical imbalance in the brain. But situational depression can often be remedied by changing, or working through, the traumas related to that situation. Post-partum depression, for example, is something that changes brain chemistry for a period of time, but is generally something that can be recovered from, either with counseling, therapy or short-term medication.

Chemical depression, however, is more or less unrecoverable. If your brain simply has a predisposition to trigger the wrong neurotransmitters at the wrong times, there’s not a whole lot that can be done about it. Therapy can be helpful, but it won’t cure it. Medication is required to right the balance.

Of course, there’s the possibility that situations can trigger chemical depression, too. Since I have such a strong dissociation from my younger self, how do I know if something that happened—remembered or not—was ultimately responsible for my depression? What if those traumas, minor though they seem now, caused me to fall into despair? What if my current bipolar condition is because of what happened to me as a child?

For Amy—and for the reader of 22 Scars—the relationship is clear. Trauma = depression. A constant bombardment of trauma could even cause permanent chemical imbalances, and suicidal behavior. But in the real world, for those of us who truly suffer, the connections aren’t always there.

If you’re depressed, is there an event that you think might have caused it? Or like me, did it come out of nowhere, latched on fiercely, and never let go?

2 thoughts on “The Forgotten Traumas of Our Past

  1. I have dealt with more situational depression like you, but definitely understand how there can be a mix of chemical imbalance as well. After giving birth to my daughter I suffered with postpartum depression/anxiety that did subside once my hormones balanced out. I do get being on medication as I have been on several and so on. But finding different or alternative coping skills I think can be a great help even with just managing through, not necessarily curing it. I have done plenty of research on even those with a traumatic past can overcome pessimistic traits. My most recent post discusses some of this, take a look if you like! I will definitely look more into your read as well! Have a great weekend!

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    1. Thank you for your reply! I’ll check out your post later today, and I do agree that talking, therapy and coping skills can go a long way toward helping. I’m sorry to hear about your experiences, and glad you are finding ways to help yourself.

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